COLUMN: Say “I love you” even when it’s weird

Marisa Karpes Columnist

Marisa Karpes

Columnist

Thanksgiving is right around the corner. Soon enough we’ll be able to exchange cafeteria food for a hearty home-cooked meal with all of the classics. Maybe you will have to cook or bake a little bit yourself, or you are getting ready to travel out of town to celebrate. Or maybe you’re looking forward to spending your time, after the meal, Black Friday shopping; all ready to bypass Thanksgiving and get right to Christmas.

Thanksgiving dinner also means seeing family members that you may or may not have seen in awhile. Around the table, talk may include politics, or the football game going on at the moment. Talk around the table will inevitably include questions about how college is going, and you will  likely say things are going fine even when you’re really drowning in assignments.

Loving someone means taking care of them when they are sick or running a quick errand for them when they are too busy to do it themselves. 

Every family has a different dynamic. Some families are very warm and close with each other. Others are more distant, and may even not know each other that well. While this may not be true for families who actually despise each other, some families, even when they do love each other may have a hard time properly expressing it to each other.

Loving someone means taking care of them when they are sick or running a quick errand for them when they are too busy to do it themselves. Love could also mean buying gifts or giving hugs. Sometimes, it’s making them their favorite meal for dinner or even saving the last piece of the pie specifically for them.

It’s commonly said that actions speak louder than words, but that does not necessarily mean that words are invaluable. 

Saying a simple ‘I love you’ goes a long way. It is one thing to show your love, but to actually say it makes it all the more special. Telling someone that you love them makes the person know, without a doubt, that you love them. Sure, they might be able to figure it out through the things you do for them (or maybe they just assume it), but actually hearing the words from you just all the more confirms it.

Saying a simple ‘I love you’ goes a long way. It is one thing to show your love, but to actually say it makes it all the more special.

This can be a rather easy thing to do with a significant other, but it may feel weird to do with family members - especially with the extended ones. Nonetheless, it is more necessary than you may realize right now.

It’s been eight years since I’ve celebrated a holiday with my Poppa, and it’s been 5 and a half years since I’ve celebrated one with my Grandma. My dad’s parents left this world too soon and I would give anything just to celebrate one more Thanksgiving with them.

The lack of my paternal grandparents at the dinner table made me realize the mortality of the rest of the family. I realize that I will not always have them. I don’t mean to sound morbid, but it is important to cherish every moment with loved ones and tell them you love them often, for you might not get the chance to one day.